I think we have all heard from our parents, guardians, pastors, grandparents or whomever to wait till marriage to have sex. But, I want to just give us all a reminder, sex is a sacred thing between a married man and woman.
During Biblical times sex meant marriage. The man took the woman into a tent and they were considered married when they came together intimately. Marital sex is the cure for immoral sexual activity. I’ve heard too much about the wonderful grace we have through Christ giving us leeway to have sex without a marital agreement providing you are in love or planning to marry anyway.
Some ladies act like it’s no big deal to have premarital sex with their boyfriend. It’s quite the contrary! If you truly love the Most High with all your soul and all your heart, it means following His commandments.
“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Exodus 20:14 (KJV) (more…)
“Cast all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you” Peter 5:7 (NIV)
I remember my very first day of high school. I was so nervous. I didn’t know really where I was going and many of my friends had been zoned to a different school. I slugged to each of my classes wearing last season’s clothes and carrying all my books because we didn’t have our lockers yet. I was trying with failure, to desperately make friends. Most of the people in my classes already knew someone and it didn’t take long for me to realize it was going to be a very long day.
Finally, after a grueling first, second and third period it was time to go to lunch. The cafeteria was jam packed with every grade level. I was so anxious, I didn’t know anyone, and with brown bag lunch in hand, I walked over to a table of girls who looked about my age, and sat down. I was mortified when one of the girls asked me what I thought I was doing sitting with them. Quickly, I got my stuff together and moved to an empty table in the corner.
Embarrassed, lonely and with no appetite I opened my lunch and said a prayer thanking God for my food and asking Him to please help me in some way. Just then I heard a voice behind me.
“Is anyone sitting here?” Another freshman was standing behind me holding her lunch tray. As she took a seat she told me she was new to town and didn’t know anyone in the school, either. Quickly we became very good friends and to this day still remain in contact and meet for lunch dates every week or so to catch up.
God works in mysterious ways; that was the day I met one of my best friends. Just when you think your day couldn’t possibly get any worse, simply say a prayer and express what you’re feelings to God. God is always with you, there to listen when you’re feeling down, and with Him you are never alone. Take comfort in the knowledge He always will provide what you need and has only your best interests in mind. Nothing is stronger than the power of prayer.
“And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.” Matthew 21:22 (NIV)
“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” Proverbs 13:20
Last Saturday I talked about the miracle of life, specifically my daughter. I love her with the depths of my soul but I don’t recommend purposefully getting pregnant in teenage years to feel the blessing of a child. I hope none of you interpreted it in this manner.
There were so many things leading up to me becoming pregnant. I surrounded myself with a wide range of different people after I started doing drugs, most of them didn’t believe in the Most High. Over time I began to adopt their attitudes and fell into peer pressure. Through these people and during the course of my physical and spiritual rebellion, I met the father of my daughter.
Sadly, an unbelieving crowd looks at life through eyes of the flesh. This is exactly what I began to do. Pleasures of this life became more important to me. Money, getting high, having fun with friends, the rush of being what some think is free, plus dishonoring my parents and pleasing my boyfriend instead of pleasing my Heavenly Father. Rejecting the morals, salvation, laws and grace of the Most High and His son Christ, turned me cold and hardened my heart. The more wicked things I did, the less my conscious cared.
The miracle of my baby girl plus the guidance of the Word, my church, and my beautiful and virtuous Mama, led me back to the Most High. Not everyone who chooses the journey I took finds their way back. Please, whether you’re pregnant, have a child, or are just a normal teen, correct yourself now. Fill your cup with the righteousness of the Word and pray with unwavering faith!
It’s no joke a child requires great responsibility. Those of you who may be carrying a child or who are already raising one, you know from experience a bad crowd and a precious innocent life doesn’t mix. Pray to the Most High and He will help you. It may seem hard at first because habits are hard to break but it’s so important to get life right. You only live once and can only raise a child once, so the fight is worth it.
I hope this gives you a little bit of insight about having unhealthy relationships with people who over time may change you. Teach and lead the people who are lost but don’t be one of them.
I have no blame for the people I once chose to surround myself for my pregnancy. What I’m trying to say is instead of taking heed to the temptations of the world and the people it offers, I should have taken heed to the Word and the Most High. If you feel it’s too late to turn around, I want you to know it is never too late! I got pregnant outside of marriage while on probation. And now look at me, I have the most beautiful well-mannered little girl and I’m a wonderful mother girded in the armor of Ephesians 6:13-18.
I thought about it for a couple minutes and decided to make the call so I called the main hospital where he worked and they transferred me to him. What happened next is kind of not what you’d want to hear. I remember ever single word of those awkward few minutes.
Me: “Hi is this, Jim?” (name changed) “My name is Susan.”
Him: “Yes, this is him, who am I speaking with?”
Me: “Do you have a daughter in Houston?”
Him: “No, I do not. Who is this again?”
My heart stopped. He doesn’t have a daughter? Is this really happening? I felt like such a fool.
Me: “Are you sure you don’t have a daughter?”
Him: “What did you say your name was again?”
This conversation changed my entire life. I had grown up without a father, without a manly figure in my life, and there he was sitting in an office across the country without any knowledge of his sixteen year old daughter.
I couldn’t blame him. I mean it wasn’t all of his fault, but a daughter without a father? A little girl is supposed to have her father’s love. He’s the one who is supposed to show her all about growing into a young woman just as much as a Mother is.
This is how the next couple of months went. At first I felt like I should’ve gotten my own TV news story or even my own reality TV show. I mean you can’t make this stuff up. Reality set in and even though it’s tough coming from a single parent home, my mom did everything right because today I am a very focused and driven young woman, and I know I’m going to get far in life.
I’m proud to share my story with you. If you ever feel less than because your father isn’t in your life or you feel like you’ll never get past the way you’re living now, take a look back at all you’ve been through. Look how far you’ve come. No one has the same story as me but I bet there are others out there who don’t have the relationship with their father they would desire. Please don’t let this part of your life define your life. Cling to those who do love you and want to spend time with you.
“Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.” 1 Timothy 2:15 (KJV)
I am going to take the month of February to focus on teen pregnancy, the causes, and the many different things that come with it both spiritual and worldly.
Being a teen mom poses problems, sure, but it’s the most rewarding thing I’ve done with my life thus far. My daughter has changed my life completely. Through the whole pregnancy I came closer and closer to the Most High, and began to look at my future with new eyes. When she was born and I held her it was like all the hardness in my heart from past decisions melted away. An unmovable love formed and a strong need and desire to lead her to the Most High completely engulfed me.
I think this is one of the reasons scripture tells us a woman will be saved in childbearing. We know according to scripture our soul is always crying out to the Most High and seeking him whether we’re in the flesh or not, so while our soul is reaching and trembling for him while at the same time the conceiving of a child and the miracle of a child is moving our hearts, something very divine happens I cannot explain in words. I believe this is a huge reason we should keep virginity a scared treasure set up in heaven until marriage.
If only this would have happened while I was married and financially stable. None the less the Most High chose my daughter specifically for me even in my sin, so I am honored and very grateful. I have repented deeply for my fornication outside of marriage and plan to put action to repentance by glorifying the Most High through my daughter, and if the Most High is willing, she will stay on the narrow path of righteousness.
Some young woman may have abortion as a thought running circles through their heads. I plead with you not to do it! If you are frightened of family reactions or feel you cannot raise your child I have points for both worries:
1. I was scared to tell my parents so I waited two months. When it all came out, they were disappointed but still willing to reach out to me and treated it like the miracle it was. Some families may not treat it like mine did so what I have to say to that is; who cares? You are not here to work according to your family’s will, you are here to work the Most High’s will.
2. If you are not financially stable or you feel you’re completely unable mentally to raise a baby then adoption is always an option. There are many, many couples who cannot conceive but still want to add a member to their family.
For those of you who don’t have help from family, there are always people out there who will help you so just pray and do your research and the Most High will lead you. He blessed your womb with a child, now he will guide you through life with that child.
“Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves breakthrough and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” St. Matthew 6:19-21(KJV)