“How long do you think it will take for them to go away?” I asked while examining the 3-inch scars on the sides of my feet.
“Oh, I’d say about three weeks or so,” my podiatrist answered absentmindedly. He finished up his check-up and handed me back my crutches.
“Really? That seems pretty quick.” I answered, a hint of disbelief in my voice. When I had gone in for my first bunion surgery almost two months ago, I hadn’t considered the fact that I would come out with these scars. Now that the second surgery was over, I was beginning to wonder how long I would bear the marks that made wearing flip-flops a little more dramatic.
Now, almost two and a half years later, I still have long, pink scars on the inner sides of my feet. It’s interesting to see peoples’ startled reactions when they glance down during a conversation and notice them there for the first time. Sometimes I like to come up with outrageous stories of how they got there, at my poor friend’s expense.
There are other ways to get scars than just getting physically hurt. Divorce leaves some big ones – maybe not so visible. Sometimes we can want to hide those scars deep down where no one will ever notice them. We are afraid that we will be viewed as weird or ugly because of the hurt we have experienced.
Unlike the scars on my feet which might never completely go away, the scars that we carry from our parents’ divorce can be healed. God wants to heal you from the ill effects of your parents’ separation. But there is one thing you have to do: stop hiding them from him. Go to Jesus in prayer and expose your hurt to his healing hand. He will make you like new inside.
As a child of divorce you’ve already learned there are consequences for mistakes your parents made. You may feel like you’re being punished for something you didn’t cause or create. You probably have every right to be angry with one or both of your parents. How are you dealing with these feelings? Let me persuade you not to go this alone. Please ask God for sustaining grace.
Grace is such a buzz word in our culture till I’m not sure we embrace what an incredible gift it is. We don’t enter the world equipped to handle setbacks. This process must be learned and without the love and support of your Heavenly Father during this tough time, you may resort to other alternatives. God wants to be your go-to source when the foundation of your home begins to crumble.
“But he said to me, my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
Apostle Paul had what he called a thorn in his flesh. There’s much speculation as to what the thorn was. Many Bible scholars think it was a physical affliction. Whatever it was, Paul petitioned God three times to take it away. God didn’t take it away but He did give Paul grace to live with his handicap and Paul became one of the most powerful writers in the New Testament.
God’s heartbeat is fierce protection for his children. When you’re weak God has the opportunity to restore you in such a way there will be no explanation you can give except to say. “It was God.”
God’s grace is available and waiting for you. Give Him your anger, your fear, your confusion, and your hopelessness. Watch how He heals you and gives you strength you never knew you had. I would love to hear your story.
Know I’m praying for you,
For your Playlist: Your Grace is Enough by Chris Tomlin