Kids in divorce situations can often feel very alone. We are passed from one house to the next — from one parent to the next — and don’t feel like we truly have a real home. Things seem unstable and distant, especially when time is divided equally between both parents, or visits are switched up frequently. Similar to changing schools, you have to readjust your friends and routine each time you change houses.
I love this painting by Ron Dicianni because of how I was encouraged when I first saw it. Jesus is walking right behind the traveler. It’s kind of hard to tell, but I think that’s a volcano in the background. But the man isn’t looking at the huge volcano; he’s instead looking ahead to the door of heaven in front of him. Jesus’ hand is on the man’s shoulder, guiding him and giving him strength.
Like the man in the picture, we can turn our back on the hardships in our life if we look heavenward. We know what is right ahead. More importantly, we know who is right beside us. We are never alone. When all else seems to change every weekend, God remains constant. He will never change. He goes with you wherever you are, and he is still the same when you switch houses for the millionth time. Our problems just don’t seem quite as important when we are looking God in the face.
I am running around frantically this week trying to prepare for a mission trip that I leave for next week, but still wanted to check in with you ladies. I stumbled across this song this week and fell in love with it! I wanted to share it with you. Sometimes when we deal with tough situations like our parents seperation or divorce we can feel as if our life and worth dwindle to nothing. But God has so much planned for you. Don’t buy into the lies that Satan is trying to convince you are truth (you’re too fat, you’re not pretty enough, no one will ever love you). God wants you to live your life abundantly and with the joy that only comes from him. Check out this song by Selena Gomez crank it up and dance around your bedroom. Enjoy this amazing journey God has given each of you. Have an fabulous weekend girls!
|May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13|
There’s nothing more wonderful than having a Father who thinks we’re special. A hug, a wink, or a smile from Dad can trump the worst day ever. The Father/Daughter relationship is a powerful bond. Even if you don’t live with your Dad you want the comfort of knowing he’s only a text away.
If divorce has caused emotional distance from your father reach out to him. Write your Dad a letter. Let him know how important it is to have a relationship with him. Your dad may not be good at expressing himself or he may feel your social life is more important to you than he is right now. Make yourself clear in the most loving way possible.
A good relationship with your Heavenly father works the same way. His touch can heal any emotional issue you have. Let Him be the bridge to a healthy relationship with your dad. Ask him to repair whatever conflict is going on.
“I will be a father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters says the Lord Almighty.” 2 Corinthians 6:18
Father’s Day can be tough if your father has little involvement in your life or if he makes your life difficult. Let your heavenly Father hold you close right now. Don’t give up on your dad and ask God to provide the right time for you to express yourself to your dad. God will open doors for you.
Know I’m praying for you,
Music for your iPod: Hold Me by Jamie Grace
Do you ever have those days when you feel that the pain and hurt will never go away? When will the healing begin? When we face divorce or separation of our parents we feel hurt, we feel as if our foundation has been ripped out from underneath us. Some times it can be difficult to work through the muck and hurt.
During these times we need to cling to the cross. God’s Word promises that His mercies are new every morning (Lam 3:23). We need to rely on him for strength. So often we think we can make it better or some “thing” is going to fix it. We turn to boys, drugs, alcohol, or food. God wants to be our comfort and there for us in our time of need. He wants to heal your heart and bring joy back to you.
Let me encourage to go before God and be honest with him with where you are. Share with him how you are feeling about the circumstances that surround you. He longs for you to have that honest relationship! Ask him to show you what steps you need to take to start the process of healing. Maybe it is being honest with your parents about how you feel? Finding someone you can talk to about what you are dealing with? Continue asking God to show you what to do; dig into His Word for answers. My prayer for you is that you will experience peace, you will depend on God in a new way, and you will feel full of HIM.
Check out this song by Tenth Avenue North.
It’s that time of year again: Father’s Day. A lot of you are probably wincing because you just remembered that you have to find a gift for Dad before Sunday (hmm, me too…).
But besides trying to find a good gift, this day is usually difficult for a lot of other reasons. We feel embarrassed and self-conscious because we don’t have a dad in our homes, and the holiday brings up feelings of hurt and a fresh reminder of what we don’t have.
I remember last Father’s day I was walking out of the auditorium after praying for some friends for their baptisms. I was tired from keeping up a smile during the service when there had been special stories shared about dads and their impact for Christ. All of a sudden I felt that I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I had tried to be happy for them, but it was hard.
Now I just needed to talk with God about what I was feeling. My friend was walking with me, and I told her that I was having a hard day. She immediately put her arm around me. It’s amazing how a friend can help when you are going through something like that! That hug gave me strength and let me know that I am cared for by my friends.
Ultimately, God is your best friend (and father!). He knows exactly what you are going through. But take some time to talk with Him and tell Him about it – it really does help! Then let your friends know what you are struggling with. It is so helpful to have friends that encourage and comfort you. Feel free to talk with me or any of the other bloggers, too!